Category Archives: Wedding

Wedding Music

For our wedding there were five different playlists.

1. Music in the ceremony
2. Music while the wedding party (including bride and groom) was introduced at the reception
3. Background music playing while everyone ate and hung out
4. Our first dance and family dance
5. Everybody dances! Wooo!

Playlists and a few notes on them below the jump. Continue reading

Values

Right after Dawn agreed to marry me, we took a week and came up with our values list. We needed to figure out what values we would want represented in how we planned for the wedding, and for the wedding ceremony and reception themselves.  Since we came up with this list, we’ve used it several times as a decision-making tool – when we weren’t sure about a decision, we checked things against these values, and then got on with it.  Having this list has been really valuable to us.

We intend to do posts in the future writing about each of the values individually, explaining why we chose it, and also analyzing how well it worked. But for now, here’s the list:

Values!

1) Getting Married!
–means merging our lives
–forming a partnership
–we’re a Crime Fighting Team!
–serve God together

2) God should be really present
–prayer, praise, adoration, and thanksgiving
–we want this whole day to be an act of worship
–we want to feel the reality of His Kingdom
–not religious trappings, but connection with the living God

What this means for the process and the day:

–planning events will commence with and rely on prayer
–we will acknowledge that God is in charge – some things we want aren’t going to happen, and other things we weren’t planning on are going to happen
–we will not just pray “God give us what we want” but “God give us what You want”

3) SIMPLE!!!

What this means for the process and the day:
–generally when there are two choices, we are going to opt for the simpler one
–complexity is ok, complication is not ok
–things should flow and be easy; when butting up against an issue step back and see if a simpler solution exists

4) Fun!
–not stuffy
–full of laughter
–people should talk about how fun this was for years
–the wedding is more for the people present than for the photographs

What this means for the process and the day:
–photojournalist style pics – not posed and forced, action shots of laughter, dancing, hugging, etc.
–dancing lessons for family and wedding party – for one night
–planning and prep are secondary to relationship building and fun

5) Meaningful TO US!!!
–this is a big deal
–traditions only as they represent us
–solemn (which doesn’t preclude lots o’ fun!)
–this is a party, but the whole reason for the party is b/c something big is happening

What this means for the process and the day:
–we will examine the structure of the service and reception and select traditions or create activities that fit
–the location and “theme” of the day should reflect the solemnity as well as the joy
–we will say no when people expect certain things that don’t really fit us

6) Personal
–involve our community – friends and family
–get everyone there to feel like they were part of it, not just observers

What this means for the process and the day:
–a dream of “no strangers” (all staff, all vendors, all whatever should be our people)
–a thing done by somebody who loves us is always preferred over a thing done by a professional no matter the difference in quality

7) Responsible
–means no major debt
–responsible to the environment
–responsible to other humans

What this means for the process and the day:
–choose the eco-friendly stuff when possible
–Dawn and Tyson stick to their monthly budget
–$10k max all-inclusive (rings, wedding, rehearsal, & honeymoon)

8) We should be fully present in each moment
–this applies to Dawn and Tyson
–also applies to everybody else
–also applies to wedding party

What this means for the process and the day:
–feelings and people are more important than details and performance
–set a tone and remember to keep stress low
–let the army help
–coordinators and best man/matrons of honor run interference on day of wedding
–whatever the thing is that we wanted, if it doesn’t happen, “meh” just enjoy it anyway

9) Relational

–the whole process should be good for our relationship, not a strain on it
–should also help build even deeper bonds with our community

What this means for the process and the day:

–planning and prep are secondary to relationship building and fun
–build hang out time with each activity, including spouses and extended people

10) a celebration of God’s goodness and love

–He gave us to each other
–He put us in these communities
–we want people to know that we feel they are gifts from God
–Yay!!